Curious- a HR habit!

Anita Simson

Manager – Human Resources

Towell Mattress & Furniture Industry

Curious- a HR habit!

Its a very much required habit, obligatory trait for a forward-thinking HRP. But…, a doubt arise- Does this sound like a positive or a negative trait?

Let’s perceive it from a diverse angle- Inquisitiveness- that’s how simple it is…but the world always find it as nosiness, prying or entering into someone else’ reserved zone. Stand beside me and take a 3600   look at the same. But… this time from a different angle… isn’t it right to show your interest on everything where you belong to? Isn’t it necessary? Yes… that’s it…. Showing your interest in all the  happenings, understanding the deep root cause of every single thing, meddling to get things right and to the next level and obviously questioning yourself and others around for betterment of the situation … is Curiosity.

Curiosity-…nonetheless is the interest for getting yourself involved in every single thing happening around or being just far-sighted. The word ‘interest’ may generate positivity…. But here, by only spreading positivity without knowing the depth doesn’t help you… The word- ‘curiosity’ has it all in every sense.

A HR professional has to be curious… should be acting as a sniffer, as many a’ things are to be sniffed out, as these doesn’t happen with an announcement. A HRP, to act as a strategic partner should be sniffing around to discover, to understand and analyze the surroundings and to see whether the things are moving in the right direction. You need to be involved in everything- right from knowing your people, product, process, industry, competitors, market trend, statutory changes, economy, global scenario, etc. etc.

Start from knowing your people- what brought them in, what keeps them in and also what gets them out when they walk off. These kind of tapping will sure shot keep you alert and act well before any awkward scenario arise. Lend your eyes to notice the happenings to avoid blind assumptions, lend your ears to what’s ringing around, b’coz this time everything will not be mere music to your ears! Need to be attentive, need to develop a detailing censoring persona- as lots of stuffs are rumored in the corridors, water/coffee corners and even at the work desk. Watch it considerately for  motivating, correcting and improving and of course- NOT with a policing eye.

Things doesn’t happen all of a sudden… understand this element. It’s You– who  didn’t notice it anytime, rather found it ONLY when the damage has already been made. So, wake-up and smell the coffee in time… so that… the entire day is yours!

Activate the sixth sense of sensing stuffs around- some may find you intriguing and some may find you interfering and also some may find you irritating… Doesn’t  matter- Finally, you are not here to please everyone, make everyone happy. You are not here to be liked or loved. Your role has to be commended. And that happens only by providing a quality job. Know your job, your role and act wisely. This is something I learnt from my current boss. That’s why I say that you learn everything in bits and pieces from your seniors. And the professionalism, you portray- is a bouquet of traits, characteristics and features- you picked up knowingly or unknowingly from all your managers when you worked/ still working with them.

Curiosity advances you with much more clarity, uncover truths, experience freshness by killing your monotony and spice-up with arrays and varieties.

I reiterate- be professional, stay professional and sound professional when you are at your work, when you are in your role. Here… staying objective always- and that’s by keeping the organizational goal and vision on top of everything, will help you attain your personal goal too.

And, gradually… people around you will better understand that everything is carried out only with one motto- Organizational growth- and you work and walk with that- You grow with the organization! And that’s what ultimately matters!!!

Wearing your HR hat and adding this trait and making it a habit will allow you to lead the crowd. Now- start being curious… it opens up more possibilities and don’t ever stop asking questions! – Sounds unorthodox; but very effective!


Happy sniffing!

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YOLO – You Only Live Once.

Anita Simson

Manager – Human Resources

Towell Mattress & Furniture Industry 

YOLO- You Only Live Once.

 A simple, yet worldly fact you realize only once the time is up. Now, in fact you are blessed to be in todays’ world than any generation had ever lived. You are leading a far comfortable, far luxurious life than any of your previous generations. A techno world… an info world…wherein everything is available at a click. You can be happy taking a virtual world tour sitting at your desk. It’s simply a VR World- Virtual Reality world.

But the question here is… Are you alive? Do you live? It’s high time now you understand the difference between living and existing. Life- should not  be mechanical, robotic or just cybernetic. You need to live to your heart’s content. It’s your life… and you only live once. Why realize it later or why let go our hay days?

Live the way you want… the only rule of this game that you need to follow is- you- here, is not harming anyone or anything in this whole process. Living to fulfill your wish is not disobeying others or not disrespecting anybody. Love your life and live your life for the only one reason that it’s yours and it passes by every moment. Empathize- no moment passed by ever comes back. You are never credited with any of your passed time. You need to simply understand this and then you will value your life more. Remember one thing- after you- others only regret for the things not done by you for them. Nobody is bothered, nobody cares what you couldn’t achieve or whether you lived happily or not?

Don’t apprehend me wrong- it’s not about being self-centered. It simply means you live your life on your terms and you stand-up for yourself and what you strongly believe in. If your happiness is in something grasp it, as no one else is/was ever eager to make you happy.

I am not here to give you means and techniques to be happy. But one thing I am sure is how to stay unhappy- ‘Try making everyone around you happy’ is the unbiased  dose of making yourself unhappy. One life is truly short to make everyone around you happy and in this process one thing is sure-shot – you stay unhappy. Then, why try this?

Practically, what happens is you lead a life wanting to make everyone else happy and in the process you lose yourself… I mean you completely forget yourself. Other’s happiness, other’s comfort overshadows everything else in your life. And, here you live- at least you think that you are living. And… there comes a day, you realize that you forgot to live for yourself and many of your dreams and wishes remain unfulfilled. Here, you get frustrated, exasperated and sometimes angry… and nobody is bothered. They find you rude, disgusting and many a times unwanted. This makes you more frustrated. Hence, the word ‘depression’ creeps in and you step into depression mode. Today the world is filling in with depressed souls. Strangely and ironically, instead of cutting this down, they are interested in marketing anti-depressants.

Now…Imagine a world- where everyone loves themselves, harms none and stay happy… what a lovely world it would be! Fantasy- is what this statement would be stated off! Is it too much to ask for? Looks like…

Forget about changing the whole world. At the minimum, initiate the beginning… change yourself. Start living. Start enjoying this very moment… live for yourself! Staying alive is quintessential- postponing your today’s happiness is very much like committing suicide in installments. With the passing days, you are just carrying your body – the remains and not living.

It’s seen that you postpone your things for tomorrow… the tomorrow that you haven’t yet seen. Who knows that you will be there to welcome this tomorrow and whether this tomorrow will ever come. It’s truly said that- Tomorrow never comes… what is true is the present. Live in the present and present yourself with the most precious ‘life’.

But, now as I say, we live in the most luxurious, very advanced and latest version of ever-lived world. And, so we get to know things quite early, easily and readily. We know what went wrong with others and where they landed. So, it’s time to hit the bull’s-eye. Don’t miss the chance of living your life. It’s only once’ guys- that means… hit or miss. So we will miss ‘miss’ and hit the right button. ‘Be happy’- should be the only motto.

Do all those things that makes you happy, that you ever wanted to do and to not to be monotonous- Once in a while question yourself- ‘When was the last time I did something for the first time’? OR ‘When was the last time that I really lived’? If you pause for an answer to this or start with an uhh’… uhh’ crushed in your recollecting those moments… You are NOT living…

It’s never late to start living for yourself… Do it before it’s too late… Discover and rediscover yourself!

Happy living! And stay Alive!! You Only Live Once!!!

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Anita Simson

Manager – Human Resources

Towell Mattress & Furniture Industry



Why things don’t work my way, why it gets delayed beyond my patience? And, why things don’t turn out as I expected? To sum it up- Why, not my way?

These questions keep popping in everyone’s’ minds some day or the other. How much ever sober we must have evolved, these questions do keep popping out, when things don’t turn our way. Today, once again, these questions have busted in my  head. Yepp, by once again, I mean- whenever something doesn’t work for me, especially when I’ve worked my heart out, these doubts have to pop out.

And, today is that day. I thought I have changed- now such petty things don’t disturb me. I am completely doing justice to my role. And, by transforming myself to a HR professional, my thinking and beliefs have had a 360 degree shift. I think, speak and act as a HR professional, where things have been always carried out keeping the organizational goal on the top. And, to reinforce the said belief, I re-quote my current boss You are not here to please everyone, make everyone happy. You are not here to be liked or loved. Your role has to be commended. Know your job, your role and act wisely”. [Taught me to be objective].

And, I tried to get into the same mold- that my boss has created for a HR professional. Understanding the fact, that the organization needs a strong administrator, I mounted myself in the space created by the organization and started changing the policies for betterment. As expected, encountered few resentments from the employees, the so-called colleagues for whom I was a harmless HR till yesterday. But, when I started questioning to all their nonsenses, they suddenly felt that I was bullying or taking advantage of the position.

Yet, I solaced myself saying that ‘You need to be bold, considering the job profile you chose- it is a dirt clearing job, but ain’t dirty!. So let’s do it and try to find some  exciting ways of doing it…

And then… I did it… I mean I nailed it…. Started by introducing with an Attendance system to create and maintain Time management and an accurate disciplined overtime computation system. I believe everything starts with a disciplined life. And, then grudges started pouring in, as people around here were not accustomed to be organized.

This day is quite frustrating, as after putting all the efforts to project the organizational goal on priority, I was diminished as a personal aggressor for the culprits. Today, as frustration is mounting up, I allow myself to reach the peak of frustration. Frustration, as they say, blocks all the possibilities of thinking and venturing the new promises. I don’t want to think about anything now and would like to stay here- at the ‘frustration zone’ for a while…

Now, I need to come back… wake up Anita… you can’t stay ‘there’ forever. The real world is calling me back… I need to come back like a phoenix bird… rising from the ashes. No… I’m not exaggerating… this is how I felt a little while ago. I recalled the motivational speech that gave a clear idea about frustration- how it grows, how it stays and how it ruins you. It was said that you, being the master should have control on all the emotional stuffs in you. Frustration will mount up ONLY and ONLY if you allow it to. Frustration will stay with you ONLY and ONLY with your permission. And, in no way, I like the company of frustration and I do not want to be a victim of frustration- I remember this every single time life turns its back on me.

A long read Zen story also comforted me…

“A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to the other side.

The two monks glanced at one another because they had taken vows not to touch a woman.

Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the woman, carried her across the river, placed her gently on the other side, and carried on his journey.

The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just happened. After rejoining his companion, he was speechless, and an hour passed without a word between them.

Two more hours passed, then three, finally the younger monk could contain himself any longer, and blurted out “As monks, we are not permitted a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?”

The older monk looked at him and replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river, why are you still carrying her?”

I thought- holding onto resentments- the only person I am really hurting is myself. Why to do this?

Today- is that day ‘out of frustration day’… I call it this way… celebrate this. No- I am not rewarded for any of my doings. Don’t get me wrong. Nobody has ever realized that ‘there was a real mess yesterday’. And, after maturing to this stage, I don’t even expect this from anyone. Again, it’s my job to get me out of this. Let’s start afresh.

Obviously, lately but confidently, this time I have developed an aura of calling ‘spade a spade’ and could identify things in black n’ white. Evolving as a HR professional, this has become a second nature and on anything that crosses the path- an eye is lend to identify things lying in gray area. I have acquired this skill of balancing emotional  vs. intelligent quotient effort fully over a period of time. And, I am NOT going to give up this quality for a bargain.

You can’t- in fact, no one can pull me out of this. I have determined that I’ll continue to be a breathing HR. I do not want to take out any of my qualities just because the wrongdoers don’t agree to me.

Wearing the HR hat, I really care to preserve the most eminent and obligatory skill of seeing through things. The fact is to keep the Organizational objective on the top! I’m excited, I could do this, as this was not possible when I was an immature HR professional. Now, I understand- I could rather change the plan than the goal.

Today, I comprehend one more thing- there’s a reason for everything… what comes your way and what doesn’t… You need to figure out the right way out of it. And, to  my understanding, I realized one thing that any changes should be brought-in gradually and one need to prepare others to accept it. This is again, where you say  that you need to sell your concepts to others. It’s not that these points were overlooked, but were not paid detailed attention, considering the complicated and confused personalities around you.

Here, I speculate – I got the answer- Why, not my way? Ok… I guess it would be easier and smoother the next time.

What you guyz think and do when things don’t work your way? What does ‘frustration zone’ mean to you? Awaiting your response… place yourself in my HR boots…

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